How To Build Confidence And Overcome Your Fears
Fear of failure is truly the thief of dreams…
Fear is something we all face, in varying degrees.
So, how do we overcome it?
I personally took a giant step of quitting my former ‘job’ to pursue my own passions and build my own business.
Did I just jump in and take hold of this decision?
I had fears.
I was afraid.
What if it didn’t work out?
How was I going to get started?
It takes self-confidence and self-esteem to push back fear. This process is not something inherited. It is learned. Though it can take time, it CAN be done… AND…
If you can break through the wall of fear and come out on the other side, success will fuel more success. It’s just the way it is!
In order to overcome fear, you have to learn how to build confidence and grow your self-esteem. We’ve all been conditioned to act, think or behave in certain ways, whether it was through our upbringing, school, jobs, etc.
Here’s some things that can help you build your confidence. I’ve adopted many of these, and work at building my confidence still.
Try some of these, or all of them, and continue the process daily. It’s important to take action on some or all of these regularly.
So, here’s my list of suggestions to help you Gain More Confidence:
- Stop Making Excuses – Focus on solutions and opportunities. Accept full responsibility for your mistakes. Focus on making the best of every situation, no matter what the outcome. Learn from your mistakes.
- Take Care of Your Health – You don’t have to have a six-pack or be in perfect shape. Eat healthier, enjoy some walks or ride a bike. Get active and have some fun with it. Love your body and take care of it! You’ll feel better, sleep better, and you’ll be more focused.
- Ask! – That’s right. Ask. Ask questions. If you’re stuck on something, find someone to help you. People love to help! Ask!
- Stop Comparing Yourself to Others – If you wish you had that same luxury car or Armani suit, stop making negative judgements about that person, because that will only lower your self-esteem. Instead, think “Wow, I love that car. I wonder what he does to earn that.”, or “That’s cool that he can afford that.”
- Be Alone – Take some time to reflect and be creative. It’s not necessary to worry and obsess about what others are doing. Take time to do what is important for you, and enjoy your “me” time.
- Think Positive and Kill the Negative Thoughts! … and Smile More! – Listen to motivational and inspirational audios and videos, to help you train to think more positively. I do this daily. You can do this while preparing meals, mowing the lawn, folding laundry, or while driving, etc. (just don’t watch videos while you’re driving – Audios work great though)
- Be Kind and Generous – Be kind to others, and help others. Volunteer. It is so gratifying. Be sure to respect your time and not become a people pleaser. Be genuine.
- Ignore the Naysayers – Embrace change. Learn. Grow. Develop. Feed your mind. Seek your passions. Set Goals. Achieve Your Goals. Naysayers don’t make goals and chase dreams.
- Stand Tall – Hold your head up. Be proud of yourself. Accept yourself. If you shake hands with someone, shake with a firm hand. Write down your achievements, no matter how big or small and keep adding to your list. Keep in mind that we are all different. Be proud of YOUR own achievements. Be proud of YOURSELF.
- Dress Better – It’s not necessary to wear a $500 suit or dress, however get in the habit of dressing just one notch above the rest. You’ll stand out, and people will notice you. If you need nicer clothes and currently don’t have enough to buy new, check out some consignment clothes. Take a shower and invest some time in yourself. You’ll feel so much better about yourself, and that will boost your confidence.
- Write Your Goals – This is HUGE. You need to set some goals. Start with something that you know you can achieve, set a time to achieve it (don’t take too long) and just do it. Then set another goal, and do that. The more goals you set, and achieve, the easier this important habit will become. If you make mistakes or don’t achieve a goal, don’t beat yourself up. It’s okay, learn from the experience, and move onwards. Continue to set goals and achieve them one by one.
- Be Grateful – No matter how crappy things may be right now, focus on things to be grateful for. There is SO much to be grateful for. This will help the frustrations disappear.
- Read – Empower yourself with knowledge. Read self-help books and anything to do with personal development. Expand your mind, expand your belief system. Feed your mind with positive information.
- Expect Success – If you shift your mental attitude to an expectation of success, you’ll bring about more success. Find the successes in your life, every day, and record them.
- Embrace the Unknown – No matter how talented, smart or capable you are, you cannot predict or control everything that happens in your life. Twists and turns will happen. I’ve had more than I can count myself. It’s important to stay focused on your goals and continue to achieve them.
Start slowly implementing a few of these tips on how to build confidence. As you get better with those, add a few more. Before you know it, you’ll be using all 15 tips on how to build confidence regularly without even realizing it. Your confidence will soar, and so will your results. I’m certain of it.
Remember that you ARE capable and worthy, just as much as anyone else.
Know and believe that it’s okay if you’ve made mistakes. We all do.
Know and believe that this is YOUR journey, not someone else’s.
Now, GO CHASE YOUR DREAMS!